Coming Out the Other Side of an Abusive Relationship Many of us find ourselves in abusive relationships at some point in our lives. It’s really difficult for us to be objective when were in the middle of a relationship that stresses us out and creates so much pain. We internalize all that stress and hurt which freezes up inside of us, and that’s what keeps us stuck. Holding all those feelings inside blinds us to the reality of what is actually happening. We can’t let go of the person who is hurting us and really move forward when we are frozen inside. The situation may become so bad that we find ourselves compelled to leave, but big parts of us are still bound up in all that pain. To the best of your ability, allow yourself to acknowledge what’s happening in the relationship and ask yourself how does it feel or what am I really feeling in response to what the other person is doing?" Then breathe softly and deeply as you focus your attention in the feelings and emotions. The pain we feel can be excruciating when we realize a person doesn’t love us, acknowledge that someone is being hurtful to us or that the relationship can’t work out. But the pain will gradually soften as we continue to breathe into it. Breathing into the pain causes the addictive attachment and dependency to dissolve. Your vision will clear in a way that will allow you to really see the person for who they really are, and you will understand what’s happening and how it’s affecting you. Working with this practice will free up your mind. It will provide you the necessary resources so you can move on in your life. Really allowing yourself to feel and breathe into the true feelings that arise in response to what’s happening in your life will cause you to become more present. Your acceptance, appreciation and awareness of yourself will grow. Deep tissue massage and healings sessions work wonderfully in conjunction with the breathing practice and need to be done with consistency. It makes a big difference by getting all the stuck emotions flowing on the inside and it gets you into motion. It also makes it a lot easier to let go of the other person when it’s really in your best interest to do so. Do what ever you find necessary to take care of yourself. Keep taking the steps to heal and things will gradually sort themselves out and you will come out the other side with greater strength, compassion and connection to your own source. And as a result of that you become clearer and attract a better quality of people into your life.
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